And move on. Thanks for your post Blossom. I could handle being told I’m no longer loved. My boyfriend of over two years broke up with me yesterday. We worked hard to stay together. She still says she loves me. Whatever kind of relationship we did have, it was further drained by his drug addiction. I never believed in the notion but it happened. Oh and also, he will get his share of pain and its hiss loss anyway. My domestic partner of almost 7 years out of the blue says he loves me but is not in love..he is almost 50 he lost his dad last year..his testosterone is low but he is taking something for it…I asked if it is his final decision and he said he doesn’t know…its only been a week and I am torn…he said and has been saying this is the best relationship he is in and have and that he has ALWAYS wanted..we built a family together bought a home together..is he having a midlife crisis? I’ve loved him since I was thirteen and I am now 21, my love has only grown with the years. we weren’t having any major issues. He explained to me that he has fallen out of love for me. So I feel like he just doesnt see me anymore. How can you start making some small plans to rebuild your life without him? In 4 years when you leave her you are going to hurt your adult children and have them feeling responsible. I’m so hurt that he didn’t respect me enough to tell me earlier as maybe we could have worked on things. I felt ao disrespected, unloved, unwanted, abandoned and a lot of feelings I couldn’t explain. He refuses to get his ring or even see or talk to me again. That he can get any woman anytime he wants. Let’s live into the fullest… goodluck everyone. I have backed off completely, I do feel desperate because I’m practically begging him to come back but I felt I needed to try fight for the person I love so much. he get annoyed easily of me. i was the only one who was in love and holding on too tight that i wont even let go. Why throw our beautiful life together away because there’s no magic8ball saying Im the one and you want to sleep around? Very hurtful!!! I’m not going into details. Im not even going to lie, i still have that small glimmer of hope that he will regret his decision and will come back, but i cant sit around waiting for that. And at least this made me cut a little burden in my heart. Idk what to think) than I can try and he said good luck to me. We dated 1 year and 3 months. He doesn’t express his feelings. If someone can’t see the value in you, it’s not worth pursuing because they’re going to always fall short. No car. If you start breaking free and learning how to live without his love, you will gain strength and happiness. I was devastated and heartbroken, because I didn’t know what exactly he meant by saying bad habbits and did started to focus on myself and figure out everything by myself. When I confronted him he stated that I wasn’t that he just had a lot on his mind about moving, a job, and so forth. I think you can do better. I've fully healed and gotten to the point where he and I are friends. My neighbour came round when the men left and told me to come round as my boyfriend was there. She spoke with him she called back and apologized saying it is over he’s not in love with you anymore he said it happened about 4 months ago and he tried to get it back but he doesn’t love you like he did in the beginning and he can’t do it anymore. When you love someone and they don't love you back, it can feel like your world is ending. That i am nothing and nobody to him. He said he loves me and only me but its our fights that are putting him doubt. I didn’t feel like someone else had died, I felt like I had died. Include your email address to get a message when this question is answered. Make a friend who doesn’t know him. At least you will not go through the pain of see him in the arm of another woman and realize he don’t care for your feeling. Definitely don’t deny that still longing for him to return. I am so broken inside – I thought I was going to marry him. Please help me I need advise. Worse yet is that he is my only friend and the only person I have. Despite of hiw hard I worked for us just to make him comfortable all he sees are my negative sides. But it is not true, if only I continue my search to happiness. Omg…same thing….he promised..drove 8 hrs to bring me back and swore i was all he needed he wad blessed to have me in his life….boom a month after i move back hes cheating with a ex…blocked me on everything…im just sick. In those last 5 times that he did this, he’s the one who asks for forgiveness because he said he realized that he can’t let go of me, that he loves me…… But this time, he seemed too serious to broke up with me because he’s not happy and that he never have loved me at all. I copied the list every morning (things like: I am beautiful, I deserve intimacy, I don’t tolerate emotional abuse, People love to pay me money for what I most love to do, I trust trust worthy people etc.) Hi. Tonight he kissed me and an hour later told me he doesnt care about me no more. We had plans. He’s on the spectrum a gentle intelligent beautiful man that cares for me that he says is true. Three months passed and then out of the blue he said we needed to have a serious conversation. The following year, we had our son. He told me sunday that he loved me and it was okay. But I felt extremely burnt by my experiences. I feel lost without him and having been trying to understand what happened to us. Talking about another man is a sign that your wife no longer loves you. I was in a physically abusive relatioship for two years and i had been sexually attacked several times as an adolescent. It was just an adjustment. It made me feel like I wasn’t enough for him to love me just as hard back. My mind & heart cant handle it. I’m looking for direction here. He says he still cares about me, that he’s worried about me and wants to be friends, he even wants to help me find somewhere to live. He replied and said I can’t do this anymore. I mean because still hanging on to him might end up being a bad situation. The person I loved with my whole heart didn’t seem capable of committing such a double betrayal to me. When you realize that he is no longer interested, you can walk away with dignity by accepting that there is no relationship there anymore and moving on. The unknown factor of what our future holds as a couple, as well as individuals in scary. Alot of fighting, physical abuse, verbal and emotional abuse. Trust me, if she came out of one bad situation, she’s not going to want to get into another one. Many couples survive marital infidelity, and even have a stronger bond because of the cheating. Most of our arguments are over little things that really dont matter. When you are ready, you will start finding ways to rebuild your life. He knows he wouldn’t be here where he is today if I had not helped him out. Or ice cold water shocking my heart from this heartwrenching news…. we see the bigger purpose in the relationship and what the gifts and lessons have been and how it no longer serves us and that this is why it is ending (no matter who is actually ending it). Let him go and move on. It hurts, I feel so broken and lost . I don’t know what to do with my life. is there anybody that can help me with this???? He had always cheated on me and i always forgave him. I called him and was ready to ask him for a new beginning. i do not want to be alone for the rest of my life. I am full of resentment and I mess up last night. If you’re starting to feel like your boyfriend isn’t showing love the way that he used to, and suddenly you feel like less of a priority and more of an accessory in his life, he might have fallen out of love with you. He doesn’t even want to try counseling. I asked why and i cant believe because we were so happy planning our future together. Last Updated: December 1, 2019 I’m Devastated! Since I realized he was moving out of town ( in March of this year) I got terribly scared. We recommend moving this block and the preceding CSS link to the HEAD of your HTML file. He said things he missed me and hoped we couls continue, but we just cant. I know it is over. I love him and I will respect whatever he feels he needs to do but I want one more chance! Thank you very much Laurie for all the encouragement and advices, it is still very difficult for me to accept and understand what he did, especially that i am not a native of his country, i am from Asia and he`s from Europe, i left my family and career, and lived with him in his country, i am alone here, no job, don`t know where to go and what to do, and how to start again. I am studying, I’m in another country, but I still thinking in him all day. I have no idea what to do, but I feel like I’ve been ripped from the inside, out. He will stop complimenting you and would criticize you much often instead, or just act more indifferent. I arrived and we had one great day and night; then all of a sudden he acted like he didn’t want me there!!! Cry if you want to. It sounds like you and your ex have very strong feelings for each other. Afterwards he said he needed to work on himself. After a previous relationship of 4 years with a very possessive jealous boy I finally broke free of that relationship and met my recent ex whilst out enjoying the freedom of party life. My husband of 10 years told me a few months ago he had divorce papers drawn up, he stopped that but tells me he doesn’t know if he is in love with me anymore. We got into a discussion about where we were. Stay strong. I’ve always been supportive, cheered him on when he was having doubts about his future, but he’s always been self destructive and practices self-sabotage when he has something really good in life. You are going to heal from this breakup – and it will take time. Fniklaw, I’m sorry I didn’t respond earlier. We had difficulties with infertility then quickly had two children in two years. We’ve had dreams together and I believe we’ve been happy. After I wrote them out, I would say them into the mirror directly into my own eyes. But I want him back. I started to miss him telling me how beautiful or important I was to him and words of affirmation is the biggest thing that makes me feel loved. That it’s not worth the waste of time. He still wants to date for a bit to make sure that he doesnt love me anymore. . Hes not home on weekends. He always say “beautiful” when he sees the picture of me that I sent. I asked him how he can ‘love me’ as he’s getting on a plane and the next day too, and then one misunderstanding led to an arguement and him ignoring me, and he’s come back and is now saying ‘I don’t love you in that way’. Over the last 6 months or so our relationship has gotten even stronger than before. But everyone seems to have their own problems. I cried and asked him if I’m not enough or if there’s something lacking in me. I got pregnant. I know i will never meet anyone like him again and even in the future if i did meet anyone else (like everyone keeps telling me i will) they wont be like him. With God all things are possible and I must believe that He has a plan for me. But, the seocnd he realized that we were like breaking up he said wait, and he bursts out crying while saying “I take everything I said, I can’t lose you, ou’re too good, too amazing, too precious, you’ve given me everything and I can’t believe I just hurted you like that”. God works everything together for the good, for people who love Him. we had a big fight after he cheated a couple of times ended up impregnating one of his girls, our bby was only 2 years old by that time, he never said he loves me no more me neither, i find my bags packed the day his new bby was born i took them and moved out, time went by my heart finded a place tp forgive him for all the pain and shame he brought me. He’s also still living with the mother of his child but says its only because he would like to see his daughter everyday and financial reasons. Finally he emotionally broke it off in September and immediately started to date someone to try to move one. I know he needs a little time, and I’m expecting a call from him in a day or two. You may be wondering about your husband’s faithfulness to you, but it’s important for you to know that an affair isn’t necessarily a sign your husband doesn’t love you. I have never felt heart break before, I have only ever been with my husband. I want to stay positive, I want to keep supporting him through this, and of course, I want our relationship to get through this. I told him i wouod always be there for him but its sad its not a mutual feeling. He was strong where I was weak. But me, i am still hoping for a miracle that he will realized that he is making a mistake, but nothing is working whatever i do or say. I love him, I’ve loved him since I was 16, and because this is what I want, I have to continue fighting . I would throw it up in his face that I gave up everything for him.. so he could pursue his life.. career.. whatever… well I would say those things alot… and thinking back.. Everything belongs. I texted his mom and thanked her for everything. he changed a lot. I feel that our trust has deepened though not fully matured. There are reasons why you feel like he doesn’t love you. When I got home from work, he sat me down and said he is no longer in love with me but hes loves and cares for me. Just enjoying the presence of new people can be a big pick-me-up. And sad to say he is telling all his family he left me because I have a bad attitude instead of the reason he commited infidelity. You may be pushing him away emotionally because of your anxiety of what he did in the past. or by his family . 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